Which one should I pick among money, intellect, & love ?

Which one should I pick among money, intellect, & love ?

The question may be simple but accountable. If you are asked to pick one of these 3 for your entire life, which one will you choose ?

To make the question more simple, You like yourself to be called as intellectual person, or rich person, or kind person.

It is very difficult for a common man to choose, because all these 3 are needed at some part of our life time. Here I'm not including the minority ascetic people in consideration but only a laypeople. 

• Money never comes our way, until we go and get it;
• Love never comes our way, until we go and share it;
• Intellect never comes our way, until we go and find it;

Intellect is nothing but a thought, love is nothing but an emotion but money is just a man made thing newly added for this competition. 

Love : 

Love makes you to do of something which cannot be done by money and intellect; It keeps the bonds of relationships and makes the planet livable for humans, Else it would be mob of machines at homes just like a robot without any emotions. If you think you can reach the fame with money or intellect alone, I will show you how Mother Teresa got her fame with her love. The more you share love, more you lose yourself. Your intellect and money cannot help you when you are old, who needs to be loved. 

But can we live happily only with love ? my answer would be a big No. Practically speaking, nowadays even to share the love, we need money and intellect. Your child doesn't always expects your kisses, sometimes he needs cloths and toys he likes. 

Money can help you to buy a dog, Intellect can help you to choose which dog to buy. Only Love can able make him wag his tail. Love alone can give you the soul satisfaction & peace.

Money: 

There is a famous saying “It is better to cry in a BMW rather than on a cycle”. This statement is indeed true. It is better to be comfortably unhappy than being uncomfortably unhappy.

Money is the only man made thing which can conquer the intellect and love. The more you get it, more it demands your attention. Now situations are changed in such a way that we need money even to live, which wasn't existed when humans were created. We need money to survive, to be comfortable, to indulge and enjoy ourselves. It is required to fulfill the basic needs of humans - water, food & shelter.

Money cannot buy happiness, but surely money can buy a thing you like which makes you happy. If I need to eat something which I like, I need money. There I get the happiness.

Intellect :

Money can say it is important, but it can be lost. Love can say it is important, but it can be broken. Only intellect can be a life long treasaure. You can buy a thing with money, But intellect needs to there to tell which is right to buy. You can make a relationship with love, But you need intellect to know which is not fake. 

One cannot buy a solution to save oneself in utter emergency situations. One has to have the intellect to deal with it. More intellectual people are being remembered in history than rich/kind people.  

There are certain things which cannot be bought by love & money but with only intellect, And they are manners, common sense, morals, class, integrity, etc..

It is quite difficult to come to a conclusion as they are from different category but entwined together. It is individual's responsibility to know how to use these 3 in their life.

• Love is to share, but we need money to share it; 
• Money is to share, but we need love to share it; 
• Intellect is understanding the above, but we need a life to know this;

If I had to chose one, I cannot choose one option alone...

Regards,

Joachin Joseph

Football is not just a game, It is life.

I have seen people often contemplate their life as if it a race, the faster you go, farther you go. To be frankly honest, it is not the case. Life can never be the game of race where you move yourself in a defined route but I would like to compare it with the game of football. In football, players often have to change the route for the same goal according to the situation. Secret of winning the race is pulling up the socks and keep running in your path, but the reality in the life is other way around. We need to know when to move forward and stop in life. 

While you have a goal in your mind, moving faster is not a best route or even not possible at times. Some routes, like career takes 3 times longer, and some are dead ends. It is not who reaches first, but it is who reaches. Why I compare the life with the game of football ?, simply because everyone doesn't have the same goal and doesn't start at the same place. Do not set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you. We are made to reach our goals by facing many opponents, adversities, calamities, hardships, sacrifices, failures, misfortunes etc.

The most important thing in reaching the goal is not 'when' but 'how'. Successful people are the ones who moves forward when they can and look for other opportunities when they cannot move in forward. Also We must be ready to adapt and look for different route when there is an obstacle or an opponent in life. In this competitive world if we are not ready to backtrack, then we are lost in the journey.

Always pay attention to where you are, Do not compare yourself with others. Say to yourself, "I have the time to get everything done that what are my goals in my life". Everything always works out if You don't rush. Goodness of reaching the goals in life is not winning but completing.

Regards,

Joachin Joseph

What you discuss ?

Great minds discuss idea. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people. - Eleanor Roosevelt

Whether a male or female, both spends a considerable minutes of time in discussions with their friends, colleagues, family members etc, But how healthy & useful are those discussions to their intellectual life. Most of our day to day discussions can be categorized within the topic idea, events and people. If you find yourself falling under the category of events or people, You need not to worry, Redirect your discussion to a level better than what you have now, Because useless discussions are not a way towards your journey success.

When I think about this quote little deeper, It gives me so many abstract questions. It doesn't describe what the Poet's intention was, when she says great mind. Does she mean the great mind as intelligent one or significant about life? But in both the cases intelligent and significant people had ideas about what they want to do.  

Roosevelt was quite clear in her saying, I hope. She doesn't emphasize "Great mind discuss only idea" or "Only great mind discuss idea". It is not claiming any infallible law. I think this quote would have risen in her mind out of her observations, but that is often true isn't ? Also Look objectively at the various spheres of people you came across? The ones that gossip all the times, how many instances it triggered your insight? Candidly? Honestly? The ones I know, don't mostly. 

Also It gives me a feel that, Roosevelt intention in saying "great mind" was to describe the state of intellect thoughts than a person. 

People may ask whether the great minds doesn't discuss the events or people, Or People discussing events and people are having small mind. Yeah, everyone discusses all those at some point of their life, but the saying is clearly referring to the proclivities of said minds and not their only actions. Also the word "Discuss" connotes a deeper conversation than just small casual talk. Intelligent people will spend more of their time thinking about grand ideas than average minds. The average mind finds itself in thinking the worries of the past and the anxieties of the future. 

So I would say, what you discuss is the indicative of the true scale of your opulent eruditeness. How would you fit your quality of discussions among the three mentioned categories above? This made me think, Is that why the genius and brilliant people in the history hated socializing. There is some truth in there, isn't? 

Clock and Time

"Don't watch the clock, do what it does. Keep going." - Sam Levenson, American Humorist.

'Tick, Tick, Tick..' the sound that usually awaken many memories of the people. The sound you may feel less important, but at times it is important in many ways. This is because you can rewind the hands of the clock, but not the time gone. The time once flown will seldom comes to your hand.

Do you cringe or abhor the idea of being so bored that you find yourself uselessly watching the clock or watch. That's fine, But what will be your mindset after watching the clock reluctantly for minutes. Every clock will teach the same lesson, keep going - do not wait for anything. Make yourself get with it.Time is fleeting. It is changing. It never stops. Neither does it wait for anyone. 

Some people say money is important, and some fame is important, but only the wise and modest will know time is important than them. Time is not money, Time is more than money. Even the strongest and powerful monarchs have been helpless before time. No one is strong enough to command the time to stop. All the successful people in life in this globe are the ones who made the best use of time. 

Time is running very slowly and silently, But only the few wises could able to pace with it and reaches the heights in time and rose with glory.

Also, We know - Tomorrow will come but today will not. I just try to emphasize the maxim “A stitch in time save nine”. Unnecessary delay and lazy attitude towards one’s assigned duty is very dangerous to us and others.

We grow in time, live in time and perish in time, but what we are doing in our time given. We can only cheat ourselves, not the time, because world revolves around the time not around us. 

Life teaches us to make good use of time and Time teaches us to make the good value of life. 

      Time is free, but it is priceless.

         We cannot own it, but we can use it.

            You cannot keep it, but you can spend it.

               You can waste it, but you cannot regain it. 

"We say we waste time, but that is impossible. We waste ourselves." -Alice Bloch

Those who have ears, listens.  

International Women's day - Nation is strong iff women are strong.

Every year International Women’s Day provides an occasion to reflect on women’s lot, past and present. Each year we do celebrate International Women’s day on March 8th with a re-determination to commemorate the achievements of women, and to acknowledge the special status they deserve in society. The significant question is what difference has it changed to the status of women? Have women become really strong, and have their long term struggles ended ?

Though women have progressed in a number of spheres, yet looking from a broader perspective, the situation remains grim. With respect statistics made by CARE, out of 1.3 billion people who live in absolute poverty around the globe, 70% are women. Astonishingly, two third of the 774 million adults in the world who cannot read is women. The context in the developing countries like India is worse. Women here are still subject to ‘honor killings’, they are still denied their basic rights to education and freedom, and face violence, sexual assaults and abuse. Still a vast number of women do not have their own life choices, and speaking locally, nationally or globally, empowerment is still in its nascent stages.

I strongly believe education is the most possible way to untie the discrimination and inequalities, which can empower the women in society.

"You educate a man, you educate a man. You educate a woman, you educate a generation.” - Brigham Young

Women are the inherent part of the society and cannot be suppressed owing to lack of power and authority. She plays vital role in every part of her life as sister, wife and mother and empowering the society, but still she is living in the chains of problems. With more than 100 International Women's day have gone by, still we could see the inequalities in all aspects around the world. She is the most basic unit of society, She decides how the family should be, her family decides how the home should be, her home decides the society and which makes the nation. So If you want a nation to be strong, Women are to be uplifted. This can be done by educating her, but before education she must be respected by men. Respecting a women is the first step of making a country supreme power. We can see the great difference between developed, developing, and under developed countries in the way they the women. Western countries are considered as a developed one and you can see women and men work shoulder to shoulder in the same pace for the development of the countries. 

We can love her because She is your daughter, She is your sister, She is your lover, She is your darling wife, She is your mother, But We must respect her because She is a women. Every women deserves certain amount respect. Circumstances have been made difficult by those who do not agree. If women were treated equally, women could perform well than men. She has more determination and prioritising skills than men.

"A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.” - Eleanor Roosevelt.

Regards,

Joachin Joseph

Keep Smiling :)

"Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of the love." - Mother Teresa. 

Many of us, would have come across this and having bitter experience when meeting a serious guy at first sight, thinking why these kinda people are still alive. It doesn't a matter how big or important you are, It will take days or months to change the opinion one set.

It really doesn't a matter whether you are happy or sad, It will not influence anyone much, but Keeping a smiling face really matters. Keeping a smiling face really costs nothing but your wrinkles. Your wrinkles either show that you're nasty, cranky, and senile, or that you're having a smiling face. People say First impression is the best impression but your attitude of keeping smiling face is the best impression you could ever give on the first impression, that could change many.

It is contagious! Not only a great way for you but for others as well. When people are smiling they are most receptive to almost anything you want to teach them. People who smile are solid magnets for others, a welcome sign, open arms, hope and acceptance. If you could give something away today, try a smile. It opens many hearts, accepts the downtrodden and gives hope to the hopeless. That is the love what society needs now, Can you spare some for others.

Try to have the attitude of keeping smiling face when meeting each other, soon or later that will become your character and people will start liking you more, because hard fact is even the new born child will get more love when it is having smiling face. When I look out at the people and they look out at me with a smile, Then I will get a vague idea that I am loved. That is the day when I have no worries, no problem.

Ever wondered, Why we say "cheeseee" while being clicked ?,  simply because we look better a step ahead to be liked.   Then how great the neighbours would be,  if you have that  smiling  face all over they time. 

Smile - lifts the face and makes you look younger

Smile - The best way to defeat your enemies and makes you successful 

Smile - Releases stress

Smile - changes your mood and makes you attractive. 

Regards,

Joachin Joseph

World's ugliest women turns beautiful, converts bullies into love - Lizzie Velásquez may inspire you

Lizzie Velásquez, an American woman who has an extremely rare medical anomaly preventing her from gaining weight. She has 0% body fat, never weighed more than 29 Kilograms and also she is having impaired eyesight.(my small urge, please be informed of using gratifying dulcet worlds like physically challenged, visually challenged/impaired, hearing impaired, medical anomaly than using handicapped, deaf, blind, etc... It doesn't looks sense on calling so, only because we are in majority). I strongly believe her extreme rare medical condition has led her to become an author and motivational speaker. On contrary, I would not have even thought her to become the same when is she is like us. However I don't want to perturb the essence because I already wrote an analogous post on medical anomaly motivation, about Transgenders.

When she was born, doctors said her parents she would not walk, think, speak, crawl by her own. What her mother told you know, "I want see her, take her to home, love her as much as I can and bring her best of I can". Apparently one of the best motivational speakers now and stands a great example to us. She has completed her graduation in communication studies and Authored 2 two books, Her autobiography and "Be Beautiful, Be You".

When Lizzie, now 24, was in high school, she discovered an eight-second video on you tube that featured a photo of her face labeling her the "world's ugliest woman" and had been viewed more than four million times with more than 1000 comments. She cried out of anguish and was mocked and tormented. Velasquez’s parents attempted to get the YouTube video taken off, but the unidentified figure who posted it professed he would never remove it. Instead of suffering from anger, hopelessness and depression, Velasquez took a different approach to her attitude. You don't belive that a 8sec video changes one life. Shockingly some YouTube users had commented that Lizzie should “Please just do the world a favour – put a gun to your head and kill yourself.” and "set fire and burn yourself." But she converted all the stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

 "God has blessed me with the greatest blessing of my life, which is my syndrome"- Lizzie

When I saw Lizzie Velasquez speak, I was brought to my knees by her dauntless strive, but also by her normalcy and good nature. Watch this below video and see for yourself. In just over 13 minutes she managed to suffuse my mind with optimistic inspirational thoughts—I bet she does the same for you. A stone can be a stumbling obstacle block and a stepping stone, It depends on how you see it.

"Am I going to let the people who called me a monster define me? No. I’m going to let my goals and my success and my accomplishments be the things that define me.” - Elizabeth Ann "Lizzie" Velásquez

She has proven to be compassionate, intelligent, and persistent...This is beautiful. Learn the meaning of beautiful and "Be Beautiful, Be you."

Lizzie Velásquez personal website

Lizzie Velásquez on twitter.

Regards,

Joachin Joseph